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Friday, February 14, 2014

The Trouble With Being Single

Warning: personal post.

The trouble with being single is that everyone thinks you’re upset about being single. I read something not too long ago, and paraphrased, it boiled down to: “I’m not willing to settle for someone I know is just settling for me until someone he really wants comes along.”  This is exactly where I am right now. When you’re in your late teens, early twenties, and you’re like me – you’re not the kind of girl who turns boys’ heads – you allow yourself to feel inadequate, and you try to change, and you let the cruel words of the boys you’re dating get under your skin. But you get to a point where you realize that there’s no changing who you are, and anyone who doesn’t appreciate exactly what you bring to the table – someone just looking for a girl to keep on the side – doesn’t deserve one nanosecond of your time. It’s not about being picky; it’s about wanting a true connection, and not trying to force one where there’s not a glimmer of hope for one. It’s about concentrating on what you want out of life – and for me, that means writing. And, unfortunately, it’s about fielding the concerned exclamations of people who tell you that finding a boyfriend is the most important thing in the world.

1 comment:

  1. You are so right! You should never settle!!! You only want to spend time with someone who can't get enough of you. Someone who loves you despite your individual flaws. And, you should never go into a relationship thinking you can change someone, because you really can't. You have to love them the way they are. If you can't do that,move on. Being alone is much better than being with the wrong someone! Happy Valentine's Day!!!